in defense of christian bale

You’ve all heard about this, right? Christian Bale going off on the DP on the set of the new Terminator movie? I heard about this a couple of days ago and, frankly, thought it could not be real. But here’s a link to the audio.

(Major profanity alert. Like, uh, David Mamet wrote this thing or something. You’ve been warned.)

Here’s an article in the LA Times which gives a little more context and closure to the whole episode. Apparently, this happened last July, but all these months later this gets released to the public?? Of course, Bale’s behavior is inexcusable — he says so himself in the LA Times article — but I also think it’s inexcusable to put this out in the public ear so long after the fact. From what I’ve read, Bale had already apologized months ago, privately, for his horrible tirade and now he’s been forced to apologize publicly for this, a private incident. I get that everyone’s up in arms over what he said, fine; it was terrible, yes. But Christian Bale is not beholden to me. He does not owe ME an explanation or an apology. Apologize to any and all affected parties, as he apparently already did, and then be done with it.

But nope. Someone had to put this out there. Nearly seven months later.

At this point, I actually find myself more disturbed about that, the disclosure after the fact, the low blow, than the actual abusive tantrum — for which he already apologized.

We all are weak. Every one of us. We are alcoholics and drug addicts, kleptos and ragers, liars and sex addicts. Weaknesses and weak moments come in all shapes and sizes and sounds. Maybe this was an isolated incident for Mr. Bale or maybe he has an issue with anger. (There was some kind of incident with his mom and sister, also several months ago.) Either way, it’s a weakness — whether in moment or character — and it is his as ours are ours. Perhaps the only good thing to come of this being made public is that Christian Bale may really commit to making whatever those “adjustments” are that the article talks about. Most of us, I might add, are blessed to be able to do our adjustments privately, however.

You know, I remember once during a rehearsal in college becoming completely frustrated with a scene I was working on. I just wasn’t getting it; I was mad at myself; ready to burst into tears, whatever. I became so unhinged at one point that I grabbed a plastic coffee mug from a set table and flung it wildly into the darkness of the theater. I couldn’t see much out there, but I was aware that my beloved director suddenly rose from his seat in the middle of the house, stared at me for a moment — I could make out his eyes and I will never forget their disappointed expression — then turned on his heel and walked out without a word. Everyone on stage just froze. Rehearsal was over and it was all my fault. My director was gone. It was beneath him to even comment. It was beneath me to do it. What he did — walking out in silence — said both of those things loudly without ever saying them. Later, full of shame and remorse, I apologized to everyone, but I’ve never gotten over the fact that I did that. In a weak moment, I DID do that. How much more horrible would the situation have been if someone had been there taping or filming my childish hissy fit for posterity and, oh, say, airing or publishing that moment to everyone on campus? I shudder to think: “Campus Actress and Horrible Person Throws Hissy, Cup.” It’s possible that many people on campus who didn’t even know me could have formed a very low opinion of me based on one weak moment. At least get to know me and then form a low opinion of me. That I understand. Now, sure, I didn’t verbally abuse anyone in this incident, but it was self-indulgent and disrespectful of every person in that theater. (And who knows how close that cup came to hitting my director? I couldn’t tell. I don’t know. I don’t want to know.) No one wants or deserves to be pronounced an irredeemable ass based on the weakness of one moment. And especially a past moment. Oh, and a private moment. Is that the measure of the man? Is that the measure of any one of us? I hope not. It’s ludicrous to me that Christian Bale is being reduced to doing public penance to people he didn’t directly offend.

I understand, of course, feeling shocked and, yes, even offended, by Mr. Bale’s language, his words. They’re awful. No one would want to be spoken to like that and you know what? None of us, save one, were. Again, the offense is not against any of us voyeurs personally and I’ve been bothered, as I’ve clicked around the Internet reading about this story, to see how many random Janes and Joes are taking this so personally. “Oh, I will never see another Christian Bale movie again!” Or “I used to like him, but now I think he’s just an ass.” I don’t understand this thinking. The extreme of it; it’s so scorched earth to me. Why be personally offended? What did he do to you? “Well, he let me down, man.” Okay. How? How did he personally let you down? “Well, I would expect more of him.” And there it is: Why? Why do you expect more of him? Because he’s famous? That’s nonsensical. These are reactions, to me, that tell me these people don’t have a realistic view of Christian Bale — or any celebrity — in the first place.

He is a human being.

People “expect more” of people they’ve unfairly put on a pedestal– or people to whom they’ve unfairly ascribed nothing but virtuous traits based on a movie role or raging personal hotness. It’s insane.

Sure, he’s famous. Whatevs. What of it? I happen to think he’s a great actor; I love his work, but I don’t look to Christian Bale or Sean Penn or Meryl Streep or Nicole Kidman for examples of, uhm, how to live my life. I separate my opinion of their work from who they are as people. This allows me the freedom to enjoy their work, or not, and allows them the freedom to be whatever kind of human beings they choose to be. Maybe I don’t agree with this one’s politics. So what? Maybe I think that one has a potty mouth. So what? Maybe I think this one is a total hoooor. So WHAT? Again, they are not my role models. I do not look to any celebrity and model my behavior, my character, after him or her. The only way an actor or actress has ever been a role model for me is in the area of their work — how they work, how they create a character, how they prepare, etc. Look to these creative souls for how to be a creative soul yourself, not necessarily how to live your life. I take my role-modeling in pieces, frankly, whoever the person is, celebrity or, uh, civilian: “I like this one’s work ethic” or “I like that one’s honesty” or “I like how she handled this one situation.” Why look to one flawed human being to be your everything role model?

The “everything” role model will let you down eventually and, in my opinion, when he or she does, it will be your fault for unfairly elevating, deifying, this one human being. There are people who will now completely write off Christian Bale. Personally blacklist his movies. And, you know, I think it’s their loss, in terms of his work. These are people so out of touch with their own basic humanity, in all its glory and all its shame, that they are intolerant when someone else’s is on such … vivid display.

He’s human. He’s famous. He screwed up. Deal with it.

I’m human. I screw up all the time. Thank God, I don’t have the burden of being famous to magnify all my human screw-ups.

And, personally, I can’t wait for the new Terminator movie.

I’ll be there, Christian Bale. Count on it.

7 Replies to “in defense of christian bale”

  1. I thought it was all a bit overblown too. I hate that I know this about him, you know? Just like the bit about him blowing up at a couple of his family members a while back. I don’t really want to know that. Now I have to wonder if they guy needs anger management classes or something. Though I guess that makes him an even more suitable batman.

  2. Cullen — Yeah, I understand; it doesn’t make him more likable, that’s for sure. On the other hand — again — I don’t feel required to like him to enjoy his work. I’m not one of those people. I KNOW people like that, but that’s just not my thing. Frankly, it’s too limiting. If I limited my movie-going to only movies with actors I liked — found personally likable and admirable — uhm, I could go to maybe three movies a year.

    And I agree: I don’t like knowing this and, even more, I don’t like knowing this when I SHOULD NOT KNOW THIS. Movie sets are closed, generally. Actors, directors, crews all need a basically private environment to create in freedom, so this is a total violation of that, to me. Bale’s REALLY BAD moment is being exploited so that we can all paw over it and judge him and find him wanting. How many other actors are now going to have to wonder if this will happen to THEM if they have an unglued moment on their next movie shoot?

    Totally unfair. His behavior IS inexcusable. But this violation is even more so — because look how far-reaching it is now.

  3. It’s the snotty self-righteousness of the comments that really gets to me.

    I just can’t be around that energy. Period. Whether it’s from family members, or people in my social circle, op-ed columns or talking heads on TV It’s unforgiving, unself-aware, humorless, and generally too legalistic for me. I cannot relate and I cannot be honest when I am around such people.

    But mainly it’s the lack of self-awareness that I find toxic. It actually hurts me to be around people like that (in a web way, or in real life).

    Any time I have posted anything on my site – any essay that shows me as less than perfect – (and God, that is what my site is all about) I get mean emails about it. And these are REGULARS … these are not drivebys. Me admitting my faults, or where I’m not perfect is an OPENING … for some people …. they smell BLOOD and they go for it. I have come to expect it.

    In general, the nice supportive emails outweigh the mean – but boy, those mean people go for blood. They see the chink in the armor and they aim directly for it.

    Like clockwork. It seems that weakness is irresistible to some people … it’s almost like a provocation, they feel they MUST attack it. They don’t even question their motives, or say, “Huh. What button is being in me right now that I am having such a reaction??”

    This goes for reactions to celebrities too. What I don’t get is the GLEE that comes from onlookers. I was actually offended by much of the Britney-Spears talk last year. Not that it wasn’t a huge spectacle, it was – you could barely get away from the dern thing – but the GLEEFUL response to it was absolutely the worst that humanity has to offer. S

    Usually it is a matter of identification, I have found. The ones who scream the loudest and are the most judgey are the ones who identify the most with what you are saying and cannot stand that you let the cat out of the bag. “Whhhaaaaa? She can’t say that!”

    That’s what I hear in the snotty commentary about celebs misbehaving, and I personally just can’t be around it.

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