the hammering

So we had an evacuation plan for this morning. I was going to take my laptop and go to the bookstore to hang out in their cafe area and do my work, uhm, all day while the little Ukrainian fellow jackhammered our home to smithereens. But TLUF (The Little Ukrainian Fellow) arrived at 9, saw us making motions to evacuate, and said in a panic, “Oh no! I kin’t be heer if you are not heer too. Somebody must be heer or I kin’t do verk!”

So guess who’s heer?

Yep.

My plan to evacuate and leave the mess and insanity to the mess and insanity professionals has been jackhammered to smithereens. Rather, I have the bottom-rattling pleasure of being heer for verk, 8 feet above it. Directly above it. Exactly directly above it. Precisely exactly directly above it. Immediately precisely exactly directly above it. The hallmark of good writing is the excessive use of adverbs. I thought everyone understood that.

The hammering began at 9:20 am. It is truly horrible.

So I’m encamped on my bed now, which — I kid you not — feels like one of those cheap motel beds that vibrates when you pay a quarter. Lucky for me, I’m getting my erotic earthquake for freeeeee. And for all the guns hidden in this house, I mean, you can’t open a cereal box without a damn gun falling out into your bowl, there are NO earplugs to be found anywhere. You have guns, you have earplugs, for God’s sake. Just now, I ran around like the Tasmanian Devil, tearing open cupboards and slobbering, praying to the blessed baby Jesus for some damn earplugs, Jesus! I think he’s mad at me now for using damn in a prayer because there are no damn earplugs. Bupkis. Nuttin’. So my ears are now stuffed with fist-sized wads of Kirkland Signature Bath Tissue, Soft and Absorbent, it says. It does not admit the truth I have just now discovered, which is: Utterly Worthless for Blocking the Sound of TLUF Jackhammering Your Stupid-Ass Condo to Smithereens.

To keep the fist-sized wads of bath tissue in place, I am wearing giant old-timey headphones. None of those precious iPod buds for this job. I need industrial strength noise reduction. It isn’t happening in any way, shape, or form, but I need to believe that I am at least fighting the good fight. I have some of my girls scattered about the bed, The Letter Sisters, The Club of Curious Friends because I am odd and they keep me company. The radio is on, I’m listening to blather, and telling myself I do not have to pee I do not have to pee I do not have to pee because the water has been shut off. My goal is to dehydrate myself to such a degree that my eyes sink back into my head and peeing is no longer necessary. Ever.

Oh, dear. What if TLUF needs to pee? Where will he go to, you know, go? Will he just pee in the dirt of my downstairs bathroom? Will it become his litter box? Worse, will he ask to use the upstairs bathroom, invading my industrial strength privacy?

Scuse me, mim, I heef to releef myself.

Oh, no.

Oh, NO.

Help me, baby Jesus!!

so …. yeah

They are jackhammering our downstairs bathroom in the morning.

The leak is in the sub-flooring, maybe as far as four feet down. The kitchen and dining room floor is ruined. Pergo completely buckled like little “wood-like” waves. We just said forget it and started tearing the warped pieces off. I want to arrange to be here all day because I freak out at the thought of some stranger being in my house when I’m not there; on the other hand, there is no way I can do that because, uhm, he flat-out told me in his little Ukrainian accent that he will be jackhammering all day. We have to cover everything downstairs with tarps and, for the love of God, who has random tarps lying around for when they jackhammer your downstairs bathroom? I’m fashioning them out of taped-together Hefty Bags even now, at 11:30 pm. I think our bathroom floor will be dirt, basically, when the little Ukrainian man is done jackhammering and reading my journals. Which is my biggest fear. Not theft. Journal reading. I will cut you, Ukraine. I swear. I’m in no mood. Please pray that he doesn’t read my journals. Or, okay, steal my sack of potatoes or something.

This place will soon no longer be ours and I haven’t talked about that much lately because it’s too hard to really talk about, but I have felt so heavy inside for so long about it. I’m tired of so many disappointments, one after another, of dreams that just ….. pfffft. Somehow jackhammering the place to smithereens tomorrow feels like an apt metaphor for how I feel.

KA-KA-KA-KA-KA-KA-POW-OW-OW-OW-OW-OW.

The only good news here is we don’t have to pay for the work; the Homeowner’s Association has to pay; it’s a “whole building” issue. Thank God. It’s $2800, just to jackhammer. The people in the unit next door, below us a couple of feet, had their carpet yanked up today from the steady trickle of water. Their floor is water right now. You could puddle-splash in there if it didn’t make you feel like slitting your wrists to look at it. So the problem starts under us and gravity pulls it down the building. That’s the problem of living here, on a canyon. The pull of gravity. Their puddles and our wood-like waves happened in a little over 24 hours. Unbelievable.

Of course, any repairs to our bathroom and kitchen we would have to cover, but we can’t. It will be too massive. Our lawyer said don’t do it. It’s not your problem. I cried at first because I thought it was our problem and then I cried when I found out it wasn’t — and not because I was relieved, but because I felt like a jerk all over again.

But maybe, in a weird way, we’re getting out at the right time. Maybe we’re being protected from much worse problems down the road. Maybe there are some serious structural issues with the building. Maybe God is protecting us after all. I look around the room right now at the destruction and begin to feel a little more divorced from it, a little less sad about leaving. I look around, frankly, and have moments where I think “I don’t need this mess, this insanity.”

We did everything right to get here — to this house where everything has gone so wrong. We didn’t lie. We didn’t cheat. We just bought a home and held on as long as we could.

So maybe God is saying, “Hey, it’s really over; something new is beginning.”

Oh, God, please. I hope so. I really do.

thanksgiving snippets, part 2

~ So I will be writing another “Santa” letter to Piper this year. At one point after Thanksgiving dinner, my sister pulled me aside, reached into her pocket, and started whisper-reading Piper’s letter to Santa this year. The gist of it was this — I think I remember it almost verbatim:

Dear Santa,

Thank you for everything you gave me last year. Also, thank you for the letter you sent me. I will try to make sure there is some food for you to eat when you visit me this year. I love you very much. My wish list is on the back of this letter. Thank you, Santa.

Love and kisses,

Piper

After this first letter, she wrote another letter to Santa, feeling bad, apparently, for forgetting to inquire after Mrs. C.

So that was the second letter: Dear Santa, How is Mrs. C getting along? Love, Piper. Hahahahaha.

~ Later, Banshee Mom asked if I would send a Santa letter to The Banshee, too. Sure. The more the merrier on this front, I say. So yesterday, she forwarded me the contents of The Banshee’s letter to Santa, and, I tell you, that girl is ALL business. Not one wasted word in that letter. Like Ernest Hemingway wrote it. I cannot tell you how much I relish the differences between those girls. It kills me. Yin and yang. Here’s The Banshee’s letter:

Dear Santa:

I love you.

I want a Tinker bell set, American Girl dolls, Calico Critters Halloween set.

Thank you.

Banshee B.

Obviously, she did not sign it “Banshee B,” but her first and last initials are the same, as I think we’ve discussed before, so that’s the gist of that. Very Banshee CEO, don’t you think?

So.

Seems “Santa” has some letter writin’ to do.

oh, shaka zulu!

We have a leak in our house — our soon-to-be-not-ours-but-the-bank’s house. I don’t think I can express to you how much we do not need this right now. Is my screaming in my sleep not enough for you, O powers conspiring against me and the clutch that just went out in my car?

Wah.

Oh, wait. How negligent of me, to forget my life’s purpose: “BACK TO WHIMSY, OKAY??!!”

Grrrrrr.

(Okay. Calm down there, Trace. As MB is now saying to me 53 times a day, “Eaaaasy, big fella.”)

And, really, I don’t know the relevance of “oh, shaka zulu” to having an in-wall plumbing leak that is warping and ruining the annoying Pergo in our kitchen, but it seemed like a safe blog swear. I mean, we are completely family friendly ’round here. Only occasionally, for example, do I post large images of women’s naked bums or ruminate about the size of dog anuses.

So, well, I have no idea what this is all about. Please proceed apace with your lives.

And, consarnit: SHAKA ZULU!

william bouguereau

This is the post I referenced below, the one that was supposed to be finished yesterday. Nevertheless, it’s here now.

One of the most emailed questions I get about this blog is “Who is the artist featured in your banner and side bar?” You know, I’ve had this new blog for over, uhm, two years now, but I’ve never written about the man who is basically the star of it.

Shame on me. Really.

Today (uh, yesterday) seems (seemed) like the perfect day to finally remedy this appalling situation, because today, (again, that would be yesterday) in 1825, the artist himself was born. One of my favorites, obviously.

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So Happy (now-belated) Birthday, William Bouguereau!

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(Here’s my girl, my beloved banner girl, Petite Maraudeuse/Little Thief. Now you can see her in her entirety and see the context for that look in her eye. She’s an angelic little scofflaw. I love her. I love all my Bouguereau girls.)

William Bouguereau, a French artist schooled in the classical, Academic style, was hugely successful for most of his lifetime, lauded within the classical community and by rich patrons of the arts. His themes were alternately religious and pagan; fantastical and earthy. He loved painting nymphs and goddesses and bathers and children, creating a light-infused dreamworld so soft and clear and precise that it seemed it must surely be real.

Fred Ross, Chairman of The Art Renewal Center, says of Bouguereau:

Bouguereau ….. was especially sensitive to the difficulties in growing up. In his depictions of childhood, he manages to capture the most exquisite subtle nuances of insecurity, self-consciousness, the search for identity, the struggle with budding sensuality and the conflict between the need to mature and the joy of wanting to stay immersed in childhood.

With an imagery at once extraordinary, fanciful, and sublime, he often conjured an ethereal universe of transcendent beauty – an idyllic and shimmering realm from which ugliness, poverty and pessimism were forever banned. These works he balanced by those reminding the more fortunate in society to care for the young, the poor and the suffering.

But even as Bouguereau’s career and reputation burgeoned, as he became a celebrity, basically, art philosophies began colliding. Impressionism was gaining popularity. Degas, Monet, Renoir, and others exploded onto the scene. The art world of 19th century France was becoming polarized: Academic vs avant-garde; classical vs Impressionism. He was soundly criticized by the up-and-comers for, basically, not getting with the program. He was “artificial” or just a “technician” or not “progressive.” Degas and other artists mocked his style, but Bouguereau just did what he did. He wasn’t swayed by all the newness swirling around him. The storm of rebellion against traditional values in painting raged around him but he just continued painting his dream world of virgins and myths and childhood — his own idea of beauty. As much as I love the work of the Impressionists, I have to applaud Bouguereau for this, for sticking to his own principles, for not allowing himself to be swept away in the churning tide of change. I mean, why should he? Why surrender everything he’d learned, everything he was, everything he’d become, to what a select group of, well, somewhat rabid artists and elites thought he should be or should become? Good for you, Bouguereau. That’s part of why I love you. He was true to everything that made him him. He wasn’t Monet or Degas or Pissarro and he wasn’t going to try to be. Whatever artistic furor blew outside his window, Bouguereau basically could not give one tiny rat’s bottom, although he probably wouldn’t have said it that way. (Because, obviously, he would have said I do not give one tiny rat’s bottom in French.) Still, his resolute self-awareness and perseverance make me want to stand up and cheer. He knew what he was and what he was not.

As if attacks on his work weren’t enough, his critics slandered him personally and relentlessly. He’s stingy, they’d say, despite the fact that he frequently organized sales to benefit his struggling colleagues. He’s a lecher, they’d say, despite no concrete evidence whatsoever. He only wants to paints nudes, they’d say, despite the fact that nudes comprised only about ten percent of Bouguereau’s body of work. (Even so, it is shocking. I mean, we all know that NO artist before him had EVER painted nudes.)

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L’etoile Perdue/The Lost Pleiad (Gorgeous. I must be a lech.)

Bouguereau, though, didn’t waste time defending himself or giving any attention to the lies, the rumors, the insanity of it all. He just quietly did what he did. Part of me wants to scream, “Defend yourself, man! They’re all LIES!” but how much creative energy, better spent on his work, would he have frittered away on that? Instead, he took the higher ground. Kept at his work. Let the work speak for itself and for him. You know, it’s mind-boggling to me, the sheer almost tyrannical force that flew at him from certain factions simply because he wasn’t seen as “progressive.”

Here’s what Damion Bartoli, a biographer of Bouguereau’s, says of the effect of the growing Impressionist influence on Bouguereau and other Academic painters of the time:

Little by little, despite their popularity with the public, the most celebrated painters of the Academy – Bouguereau, Gérôme, Cabanel, Meissonier, Bonnat, Lefèbvre – found themselves blacklisted by a group of youthful artists supported by a cooperative press and the fabulous inherited wealth of a few “high priest” patrons of this avant garde who were on the brink of monopolizing the official posts — in the Beaux-Arts, in the teaching profession, and in the curatorial positions of the major museums.

Still, Bouguereau was undaunted. The new fashion simply didn’t suit him. His dedication to his own vision could not be altered or swayed. A master colorist and draftsman, he pursued the perfection of his dream world his entire working life.

Bartoli says of Bouguereau’s habits:

Rising at six o’clock, he would install himself in his studio and stay there without budging until nightfall, appeasing his midday hunger with eggs and his thirst with a glass of water. He received guests, he smoked, he chatted, he joked; but he did not stop – he never stopped. As soon as the light became insufficient for painting, he worked at his voluminous correspondence, then finally; letting his imagination wander, he would search for new subjects, designing new compositions by lamplight, stopping only when weariness got the best of him.

Bouguereau was also a generous teacher. Another reason I love him. He was passionate about sharing his knowledge, championing the work of the Old Masters — Raphael was a favorite — to his students his entire life, while at the same time allowing his students free expression of their own vision and individuality. He taught as he had been taught: technique and freedom. The one was born from the other. I love that mindset — a perfect combination in a teacher, if you ask me. He extolled the virtues of studying the craft of painting and practiced what he preached. In addition, Bouguereau was a trailblazer, advocating for the integration of women into the ateliers and academies. He personally taught women in his own atelier and, later, largely through Bouguereau’s own influence and example, women were allowed into the prestigious Julian Academy and the Ecole des Beaux-Arts. Late in life, after many years of being a widower, Bouguereau married one of his students, American Elizabeth Jane Gardner, who became an accomplished artist in her own right.

Some students, though, were far less amenable, shall we say. Truly difficult, according to Ross:

The most famous of these was Matisse, who quickly dropped out of Bouguereau’s studio. From the start, the master tried to encourage Matisse, but soon threw up his hands in exasperation, noting the young man’s weaknesses, “You badly need to learn perspective,” he said to him, “But first, you need to know how to hold a pencil. You will never know how to draw.”

(Clearly, Matisse found his way somehow. But hahahaha. Bouguereau obviously thought he was a slackass.)

His personal life was filled with tragedy. By the end of his life, Bouguereau had outlived his first wife and four of his five children. How he kept creating under the weight of so much sorrow, how he didn’t just shut down, become paralyzed with too much grief, I cannot even fathom, although perhaps a clue can be found in his own quote:

Each day I go to my studio full of joy; in the evening when obliged to stop because of darkness I can scarcely wait for the next morning to come…if I cannot give myself to my dear painting I am miserable.

I love that. He was his art.

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Bouguereau died in 1905, his reputation obscured — along with those of other Academic artists — under a cloud of lingering hostility. Impressionism had basically reinvented art; it represented progress, a fresh newborn approach. A traditional artist like Bouguereau, however, had become — even posthumously — a blaring example of “what not to do”; his work was “old establishment,” a rigid dying aesthetic. This was the general opinion towards most of the great artists of the Academie, but Bouguereau seemed to get an extra bite of venom from his detractors. A prolonged catty backlash. I mean, pick up any art history book published from 1910 to 1980 and Bouguereau, if mentioned at all, will be presented as a bad example or perhaps as Matisse’s (really frustrated) teacher. The man who in his day was considered the most important French artist of the 19th century and one of the greatest painters of the human form was basically expunged from art history for nearly two generations. (A similar thing happened to Rembrandt, but that’s another story.)

Now, this is just my opinion, but I think that extra venom has to do with his being a teacher. He didn’t just practice the “old ways,” he preached them to others. Perpetuated them. He was basically a conservator of the methods of the Old Masters he so dearly loved. But practicing the traditional methods in his own work might have been one thing; evangelizing about them quite another. Perhaps mentoring another generation in those “old establishment” ways embittered his critics even more. You’re rigid, Bouguereau, but keep it to yourself. Don’t spread your disease. Of course, this whole thing is just a theory of mine, but it might explain some of the extra measure of rancor Bouguereau has received over the years. What he did, he taught others to do, and perhaps that carried with it a more severe punishment from those who considered themselves more modern and forward-thinking. Again, a theory.

As the 20th century marched on, Bouguereau’s works were lost to basements and attics and dusty storage rooms. People lucky enough to possess one of his gorgeous ethereal paintings didn’t even know what they had. Before the 1960s, it wasn’t uncommon for his pieces to sell for as little as $500. That’s how invisible, how forgotten, he’d become. Uhm, Bouguereau who?? By 1980, though, Bouguereau was experiencing some artistic redemption. The art world was finally giving him a long-deserved second look and his pieces began selling for millions at auction. That being said, he still remains a polarizing figure in art circles, criticized variously for being “unemotional” and “too emotional.” “Full of flaws” and “too perfect.” “An individualist” and “a pushover.” “Weird” and “conventional.” Good Lord. Make up your minds, people. What’s next? “Too tall” and “Too short”? (He was short, actually.) The pendulum swings wildly to this day with Bouguereau. Depending on your view, he’s either the defender of Western civilization or the enemy of progress. Good guy or bad guy. Hero or devil.

I myself can’t quite understand it, really, or it exhausts me or something, because I like to consider the work. I just want to fall into the work of an artist. Relish it. Soak it up. I don’t feel the need to label him a cultural touchstone or a cultural killjoy. Maybe I’m simplistic, simple-minded, whatever. I just love his work and his dedication to it. That’s what gets my blood going. But for whatever reason, for many many other people, Bouguereau stands at the intersection of the age-old debate between tradition and progress. The debate about him is always about more than the merits of his work. (And there have been debates, actual debates, about this man. Getty Museum 2006.) So I understand that all these complications have always swirled around him, I do, I just prefer not to immerse myself in them when I’m looking at his work. Actually, now that I think of it, he preferred that, too. It was about the work, always the work. I’m just gratified to see that after being forsaken for decades, locked in the basement of public opinion, Bouguereau is slowly — for a growing circle of people — being restored to what I believe he was all along: a genius of light and tone and clarity, a master of ethereal fancies and sun-drenched dreams, a man who never strayed from his personal journey toward absolute beauty, the world outside be damned.

So thank you, William Bouguereau. You give me joy.

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La Brise du Printemps/Spring Breeze

Please go here to enter The Art Renewal Center’s extensive and stunning Bouguereau gallery. I have that whole site bookmarked. So many gorgeous galleries featuring other Masters of classical realism. On the main page, click on “Museum” and enter your search. Again, this site is devoted to classical realism. You won’t find Picasso, but you’ll find enough beauty to keep you occupied and drooling for hours.

working … working ….

I am working on a long post that was supposed to go up yesterday, but then the day got away from me and now, well, I’m trying to finish to get it posted today. It’s something I needed to research, gather my resources, blah, blah, isn’t that impressive, and it will likely bore anyone but me immensely — and that-there is some truly stellar salesmanship of the ol’ post-aroo, Trace. Where’s that Harold Hill when I need him?

So to distract you in a Look!-Over-there! kind of way while I sneak brussel sprouts onto your blog plate, I offer a Christmas question — it is December 1st, after all.

Here it is:

Which one of these would you most like to possess, personally and unceasingly:

joy

hope

or peace

Which one do you choose and why?

(Love is left off by design, because … I’m a Scrooge, I guess.)

Proceed.

thanksgiving snippets, part 1

~ First, everything stopped in our house during the Macy’s Thanksgiving Parade when Miss Kerry O’Malley appeared on screen in a medley from Broadway’s White Christmas, twirling in an impossibly swirly red gown with these wide white equatorial stripes on a vast spinning globe of skirt. Gorgeous and just so much fun, too. For me, it was the best of the Broadway show numbers. Truly lovely and nostalgic and joyful, taking me back to a time I’ve never even been yet still long for. At the end, the camera came in for a beautiful close-up of Kerry’s face and I got the distinct impression that she was in that moment and that time, too. So thank you, Kerry O’Malley and the cast of White Christmas, for those glowing heartfelt moments. They made me feel like I was completely melting into the larger spirit of the season and it was just the start I needed for my Thanksgiving day.

~ Arriving at my parents’ house, I managed to finagle a welcoming hug from The Banshee, even though she has a strict hug regimen, as previously discussed. And when I say “finagle,” I ain’t kidding. She was on the floor, playing with her aunts’ old dollhouse, so I perched on the sofa near her and said something like, “Hey! Help! I need one of those yummy Banshee hugs!” Then I had to wait for, oh, five seconds while she deliberated, Solomon-like, about the wisdom of hugging Tee Tee. Those were some long vulnerable seconds, I gotta tell you, and it occurred to me that I might not survive emotionally. Suddenly, decision made, she jumped up and crushed me in a huge hug. So hooray for yummy random hugs. And being a sycophant. To a four year old.

~ Moments later, Piper and family were arriving and The Banshee raced to the front door and stood there, chanting, all OCD, “Piper … Piper … Piper ….” She could barely contain herself, waiting in the entryway while my sister’s family rolled out of the car and unloaded Thanksgiving goodies. While she waited, she got quizzed on who else was arriving besides her idol Piper. “So Banshee, it’s Aunt ……” “Tee Tee!” she said. Oops. We corrected her. “And it’s Uncle …..” “Beloved!” she answered. Oops. Another correction. Really not fair to quiz her when she’s basically in a trance of anticipation about Piper. And when Piper entered the door, The Banshee flung herself head- first at her cousin. She’s the only person who doesn’t have to ask for a hug from The Banshee. She gets one whether she wants it or not.

~ MB had to show Elder Nephew how to use a bottle opener. Uhm, wha??? How do you not know this, dear boy?? You are 17. I guess that’s what aunts and uncles are for, though. Filling any odd educational gaps for their nephews and nieces. So, phhhew, that one’s covered.

~ I sat next to Piper at dinner and she regaled me with endless high-speed tales of I know not what. Something like, “Tee Tee! There’s this boy at my school and his name is Ben and (something insane and hilarious and incomprehensible happened to him) and he was really ASLEEP THE ENTIRE TIME!!!! HAHAHAHAHAHA!!!” Really, she was SO ramped up to share these things with me and I felt bad that I couldn’t follow the thread — or threads — tumbling wildly out of her mouth, but it was cracking me up to see her in such hysterics, so I was laughing. Just not for the reasons she might have thought. But bless her for always wanting to connect with people.

~ After dinner, my sister and Sparky the puppy and I went outside for some fresh, actually chilly air. We sat on my parents’ lawn, near the waterfall. I love that waterfall. Dad only “turns it on” now for special occasions, and even though it’s man-made, it looks so natural — huge rocks jutting out from the pine trees, water rushing towards an ending pond, the sound a backing track to so many years of memories. I can’t imagine my parents’ yard without it. After all the rain we’ve had the last few days, even on Thanksgiving Eve, the grass, so greedy-thirsty from drought, was still dry and cushy, and while we talked, we took turns tossing a fallen pine cone across the lawn for Sparky to retrieve. Between pieces of more meaningful conversation, we’d stop intermittently to laugh at his flying black hair, his teensiness, his willingness to fetch a pine cone, for Pete’s sake. A while later, we were joined by Banshee’s mom, with Baby Banshee in tow in her green plaid dress. She plopped near me, a little bottom-heavy dumpling, as the wind blew my too-long Sasquatch hair into her face, tickling her, making her laugh. Dark clouds dotted the sky, a timid sun peeking behind them, slanting her light like a sideways glance. The perfect clean after-rainy-day sky. The occasional stray raindrop did smatter us here and there, but we didn’t care. It felt so good. Later, as the three of us sisters chatted and watched Baby Banshee trying not to roll down the slight slope, Banshee’s dad (brother) and Younger Nephew started a game of Bocce ball on the lawn in front of us. At one point, a stray ball rolled towards Baby Banshee. She squealed bah bah bah!! and grabbed the ball, clutching it to her bosom with a thrill, drooling over it with love. She hugged that ball tight like a baby for a long time. Chatting continued, lazy and comfortable. We watched brother and nephew’s game, I randomly refereed, and Baby Banshee waved and giggled at her daddy across the lawn, squealing again whenever a ball came near her. I just wanted to drink it all in, slow everything down, make every second last. Sometimes you just have to tear up at how beautiful things can be, you know? I want to take those moments on the grass and sear them into my brain for later, maybe soon, maybe years from now, when I know I will surely need them.

pre-thanksgiving feast snippets

~ It’s a blustery and rainy day in silly San Diego. Hallelujah! I haven’t seen a cloudy Thanksgiving in eons! I cannot tell you how much I love rain.

~ So MB and I are sort of tucked in here, up early, in our flannel jammies and genuwine Ugg boots from actual Australia, finishing our contribution to today’s family feast, waiting for the Macy’s parade to start, and preparing our Thanksgiving morning tradition: mimosas and bagels with smoked salmon, cream cheese, Spanish onions, and capers. YUM. Toast faster, bagels! I command you.

~ Don’t worry. I promise not to kiss you with this mouth. We will worry about gargling later.

~ I am looking forward to The Banshee’s latest pressing questions, which I hear are theological in nature: How can God be three people? and Is Jesus’ last name Amen? and whatever else consumes the mind of an oh-SO-precocious 4 year old.

~ On an unrelated note, I just got a “Happy Thanksgiving” text message from a friend who’s in the national touring company of “Jesus Christ Superstar” with 493-year-old Ted Neeley as Jesus. That little stinker. I didn’t even know. He’s all, I’m in Vegas. And I’m all, Why are you in Vegas? So he’s all, Oh, we need to chat. I’m in the JCS tour!!! And I’m all, AAAAAAHHHHHH!!!!! etc. Uhm, yes, J! We DO need to talk! Then I told him not to be a lazy V, which is an inside joke that I must one day explain on this blog. Do NOT be a lazy V, J. You are a priest now, for God’s sake.

~ On another unrelated note, I’ve discovered that if a commercial has jingling bells, I will instantly and urgently need to buy whatever the product is: mattresses, batteries, KFC. I am Pavlov’s dog.

~ So this Pavlov’s dog wants to wish you the happiest of Thanksgivings and thank you all for hanging out over here on my little sliver of the Net. You are all such a blessing to me! So eat up and have a wonderful holiday this weekend!

bits ‘n’ pieces

~ I am now obsessed with Mad Men. We do not have cable, as I think I’ve mentioned before, because we have an ongoing debate in this household as to which century we actually want to live in, so I am Netflixing my new fixation now at regular intervals. I’m just digging into it, but I love the whole atmosphere. The look. The undercurrents. It’s slow to start, and you wonder if it will ever really grab you, but next thing you know, you’re caught in its vise-like grip.

~ It’s supposed to RAIN here in San Diego today and I am breathless with anticipation. Surely, fall is coming. Someday. I mean, the other day, I actually saw some palm fronds that had blown down onto our street.

~ Oh, and yes. As predicted, the now-banned doctor did drop me from his blogroll — without even seeing my REAL explosion. If only I could get onto people’s blogrolls as quickly as I get off them. Ah, my ever-present charms.

~ On Thursday, I’m hoping to ask Piper more questions about how Squash helped the pilgrims at the first Thanksgiving. It’s always good to bone up on one’s knowledge of our history, don’t you agree?

~ Perhaps, too, I will purposely give The Banshee the wrong muffin or something, just to see what happens when she’s awake.

~ I wish with every fiber of my being that Jayne were here to make the Thanksgiving dessert that I’m supposed to make. Does anyone have a good, easy — this cannot be overstressed — recipe for some kind of spicy, apple-y cake-y thing with frosting? I can’t have this happening again. I need a Dessert Savior, so step up, pippa, I implore you.

omaha beach

I owe you all an apology for the post below. I wrote it in a crush of fury, as a way to exorcise myself, make my heart stop racing. But beyond that, when I look inside my heart — a somewhat calmer heart now — I realize I really wrote it as a way to “pile on” to the perpetrator. Really stick it to him because his lack of response to my comment made me, well, insane. My heart was sold out on the rightness of my cause so I basically declared war.

Obviously, I am not wrong whenever I’ve said, “I am occasionally somewhat unmodulated in my behavior.”

That said, I still agree with myself, my points. To the extent that any of them are even clearly articulated, yes, I still agree. It’s my motivation and my methods that were wrong. More than anything, I longed for him to come here and SEE, DAMMIT, that his comment was now the subject of its own post and even as I write that, I’m cringing with shame. I didn’t question my decision to do it. I never stopped to weigh it or say, “Hey, Jesus, sooo, whaddya think?” I didn’t want to. I wanted what I wanted and the proof is below.

I railed at fellow Christians and their untamed tongues all the while showing mine off quite nicely, thank you. Just because a person is a Christian doesn’t mean they’re free from hypocrisy. I, for one, clearly am not. I don’t expect ever to be free from it, because human-ness is a bloody mess. Everyone, Christian or no, has an Omaha Beach inside of them. The carnage of who we really are. I’m no different.

It would be so easy to just delete that post and pretend it never happened, but I won’t be doing that. (Not that I wasn’t sorely tempted.) It will stay up, as a reminder of my frequently cloudy motivations, my pettiness, my rage. If I take it down, I gloss over my own brokenness and that, too, would be hypocrisy. If I lose touch with my brokenness, I lose touch with my perpetual need for the grace of Jesus Christ.

So no. No, I want to own it. My Omaha Beach.

I have, however, gone ahead and banned the perpetrator from this blog. Judging from my stats, he still hasn’t seen any of this and now, he won’t. It’s hard for me to ban him — not because I want him to stay, I don’t — but because I was so invested in having him SEE WHAT HE DID! and RUBBING HIS NOSE IN IT! and such. Banning him before he sees any of this means I must forfeit my outcome. That’s hard. I hate that actually, because, hello, I’m a baby. All my life, I’ve longed for understanding, to be understood, blahdie blah, and this weekend, I wanted nothing more than to carve understanding into this man’s heart and mind, word by vehement word. Not once, but twice, for God’s sake, such was my fever for it.

Does he need more sensitivity? Perhaps. But, uhm, bludgeoning him repeatedly with his need for sensitivity is extremely unlikely to produce it. It’s regrettable to me that even now, at this point in my life, I’m always captivated by my methods. So sure my winning ways will make the pivotal difference for some sad misguided schmoe. It’s true: I am never not swept off my feet by my brilliant choices in any moment. They always sparkle and glow and whisper to me of my greatness. Liars.

Finally, in the post below, I didn’t mean to imply that if you believe in Jesus, you’re a dumbass. I’m a dumbass, but not for that. Plus, I know plenty of dumbasses who don’t believe in Jesus, so there’s no corner on the market here. Have I experienced dumbass behavior from Christians? Absolutely. Have I been a dumbass Christian? Indeedy. But believing in Jesus, I think, is a brilliant idea. Perhaps the only brilliant idea I’ve ever really had.

For any of you who cringed when you read that post, I totally understand.

Please forgive me.

Thank you, though, for your love and support, for being my true blazing champions. You are all such good friends to me. I’ve never met any of you in person, but you are real-er to me than some people I know face to face. In that, I am blessed.

People like you make me believe I just might survive my Omaha Beach.